After going through my first year of college and with many millennials heading forward to their freshman year in college, I thought it’d be a good idea to do some self-reflection/evaluation on my college experience (so far) vs. my high school experience. And so I came up with five main things that set college apart from high school; things that I believe one should let go after high school. College is a time where one can learn more about oneself, so dare to explore and dare to be… different.
Don’t let your insecurities outshine your capabilities in college. You are there for a reason. Just remember that college is a vessel that will help you figure out what you want to do in the future, and if you do have things figured out, then college is definitely a ship that will help set you sail to where you want to be directed. So don’t let your insecurities mar the greatness that lies within you. To break this point down — don’t worry too much about what you wear, how you look, or how you even act. At this point in your life, those that are around you would care less if you put on make-up or wear the latest fashion trend. Just know that it’s very liberating to be yourself (and to wear whatever it is that’s comfortable for you, be it a pair of leggings or joggers every single day!
The great thing about college is being immersed in an even more diverse setting than high school. So judgment, despite its unavoidability, shouldn’t be the highlight during your time in college. In fact, go ahead and embrace the individuality that you see amongst the peers you will eventually meet. This is what makes college great! You get to meet people of all sorts of cultures and backgrounds! (Unlike high school, when majority of first impressions are made on the basis of judging one another).
3. Fitting In
High school may have been filled with various classes of social hierarchy, and you may have felt inclined to fit into some kind of social rank or status in order to feel like you belong. And that’s totally okay, but college is somewhat different. You don’t have to brand yourself or fit yourself into a certain category in order to feel like you belong. As I mentioned earlier, one of the greatest things about college is the diversity that’s ever-present on campus. You will meet many different people, some of whom you may automatically connect with and some you won’t, but in the end, you learn who you love to surround yourself with. You get to pick and choose who you want to be with and truly be yourself with. You don’t have to pretend to be someone you’re not. It may take time for you to find who you love spending time with the most, and that’s okay, just be you.
4. Awful Study Habits
And this is a very serious thing in college. If you think you could study the night before an exam in high school and still do well, you should probably rethink doing something like that in college. (Read more about this in my other post: 20 Things I Learned My Freshman Year of College)
5. Settling for Less Than What You Deserve
You know you can do better. You are better. BE better. Don’t let a poor grade, a broken friendship, a ruined relationship, a disagreement, a fight, or anything else define you. Pursue your dreams. Don’t let anything get in your way. Don’t be satisfied with what you have at the moment. If you know you deserve better, fight for it. OWN it.
And that’s about it, thanks loves!